Dear Peter
You haven’t ruined things –it just wasn’t meant to be. If this guy was really into you he would have been able to wait a lot longer than the second date to have sex with you. Even if you had slept with him the result would have been the same sooner or later, and you would only have felt worse for it. When it comes to sex, it’s important that you do whatever feels right for you rather than let someone else dictate the pace. Best Wishes, Paula